Fear

You know what fear really means? Well, FEAR is just False Evidence Appearing Real. We may experience fear to those things that are unknown for us, those who are new and we had never tried, we can be afraid of the darkness because we don’t know what is happening around us. There are lots of different types of fear and each one of them is acceptable, however there are a very significant number of them that we should not have.

The first one is the fear to death, they say that those who are afraid to death are afraid of life and that is true, every second that passes we are exposed to death, either by a natural disaster, disease or murder, in the end there are many ways. So if you’re scared to death you will never enjoy your life because every second you are exposed to it. We need to understand that is a necessary process for life, for concluding it, everything has an ending, but we can’t decide how fast or slow it comes. We can’t avoid or prevent death, only in certain cases like accidents, but what I think most important is that every day we need to live it with intensity as if it were the last day of our life because in that way we can approach even more the day and if it really is our last day on Earth well it was approach as the others.

Another fear we have is the fear of what will happen tomorrow or the future, that uncertainty of not knowing what will happen, if it is going to be good or not, if it’s going to change your life or not. And it can be one of the most frustrating fears, I felt it once and it was horrible, because it exhausted me not only emotionally but physically by the stress of not knowing what will happen, until I learn that we need to live in the present and enjoy it and stop worrying about tomorrow, it’s simple, the past is history that can’t be modified, you can remembered it however you can’t change it and the future doesn’t exist yet, you can’t know what will happen but the actions that you do today are the ones that will determine your future.  So just live day by day, if we only think about the future we will not live the present and we are not going to be able to transform it and if we only think about the past we are going to be attached to things that are impossible to change and we are not going to be able to enjoy the present and have a successful future. Remember the actions that you do today can not only determine your future, but they can improve it.

And the last one is the fear of leaving the comfort zone because we are afraid of failure, here we are talking about two different fears, the first one is the fear of failure. I don’t know a single person who has succeeded without having failed before, failure is necessary for reaching success because if you think that there are only two options: failure and success; since there you are failing, you learn from failure as well as you experience. When we fail we realize that we are not perfect and we are not going to, first we need to understand that life isn’t like school that you first learn the lesson and then you are tested, in life you are tested first and then you learn the lesson.

We need to leave our comfort zone and stop worrying about what others say or think about us and do what we love doing, go to that place we dream of, break the rules, and have no routines only then we can reach success because you need to go for it, as they say: “Good things happen to those who wait for them and amazing things happen to those who go for them” So if you really want to be successful stop having fear and go to that place you always wanted to go, get that job you always dream of, do what you want but if you want to success you need to be conscious that you are going to fail at the beginning and then you will learn and we need to have risks because we can have amazing chances, you have no idea of what can happen, maybe it can be the best experience in your whole life, you need to take that step forward to the unknown things and you may be hurt in the journey but you are going to find the way to get out like a god. Live, enjoy and stop worrying, if you want to success you need to risk, left behind things that stop you and be positive. There is nothing better than trying because some how you are going to make it.

Obstacles

There are going to be times in life that even though we try and work hard we are not going to be able to achieve that desired goal and not because we haven’t given all but because unfortunately we live in a corrupt world full of favoritism, and many times what happen is that the person who has worked less is the one that takes everything and the one who has given all isn’t even remembered. When this happen to us, at the beginning we may think that the world is against us and feel bad because is something that we fight for and that we desire, however when time passes by, after happening this to me a several times I started thinking and said to myself that if this happens to me there has to be a reason why and I still believe it. I think that everything happens for a reason and maybe that goal or destiny that we desired wasn’t the best for us, instead of being depress we need to think that if this happens is because we are going to find something much better, another chance. The persons that have the same goals as us and they achieve them first, are going to have success but we don´t have to hate them we just need to let the time pass by and we can finally appreciate that in the end we have the best, because it was you that work hard since the beginning and this will bring you good things to your life besides if you don´t have success in one place you got the rest of the world to try, it´s just about trying.

Another obstacle that we may find in the way of success is that someone or something keep us apart from it, what I refer to is for example one person doesn´t let you do the things you want or like, or maybe you can´t practice your favorite sport because of your health. In life we will find a lot of obstacles like these ones that I just mentioned and for me are the most difficult because we don´t choose them and they can´t disappear from one day to another. However there is something that we can still do, if a person is stopping you in your path of success, just ignored him or her and show them that you can make it of course without hurting anyone, or maybe you wanted the support of that special person but you didn´t get it, you don´t have to let that persons tear you down, come on you need to fight, win, beat and demonstrate to the world who you are and what you can do.

Everyone has a special ability, something we like and we are passionate for, everyone has virtues and we are all intelligent is just that each one has his or her own intelligence in different areas, some may have their intelligence at the academic area, others at sports, others at art, no matter what area we are intelligent and we have to use that intelligence to help us in the way of success.

I assure you that there are lots of ways to achieve success, if one of them doesn´t work, do not leave your goals, try another way, so in that way you will learn how not to do it and you can gain experience about the way you need to follow for reaching your dreams. One example is that when the light bulb was created many attempts were made, let´s imagine a hundred (I´m not really sure) and it wasn´t until the hundred attempt when he finally made it and it is because the person who create it persevered and learned another 99 ways of how not to do it, so what he did was that he reduced the possibilities until he reach one that was the correct one.

And when we can´t reach our goals not because we don´t want to but because we aren´t able to change the situation, and you are completely sure that you can´t reach your goal with any other way, I ask you to look for others things you like, if you can´t achieve one goal for health reasons, saying as an example, try to create a lot of new things. There are a lot of activities that I assure you had never tried and probably you can like one of them and now you can have new goals based in that new activity. Remember we have a lot of possibilities, as there is no obstacle that can stop us for reaching success, everything is in finding the correct way of doing it, don´t ever give up and if you failed don´t be discouraged because you learn more than you can learn from success, so keep moving forward, remove all the obstacles from your way and start now. “Success only occurs when dreams are bigger than excuses”

Making choices

Each one of us has his/her own life and decides how to live it, but there are times when circumstances overtake us and our life is no longer the same. It really never stops being our life is just that it has changed, most of the times that changes come by making bad decisions, and it is okay to make bad decisions I mean we are human beings and we make mistakes, however there are some decisions that we can avoid. For example, what others think about us, most of the times we are affected by bad comments and this happens because we choose this to happen and we don´t know that all of this will remain in our subconscious mind and now every time we hear a bad comment our mind will make us feel bad.

The mind is powerful and everything we think will remain in it, if you believe that you can do everything, you will do it eventually and if you think you can´t, your mind will take that as true and you will not be able to do it. So we can choose to fill in our mind with good thoughts and forget bad comments, I know it`s difficult but if we really want it to happen we are going to make it, ultimately is our life nothing bad will happen to others if you quit or if you have success they will only feel jealous or in an extreme case happiness; however it only affect ourselves because if you quit is forever, you can`t regret but if you keep moving forward the reward at the end will bring you good things and you can share them with others.

Another decision is to learn to say good things to ourselves, nobody force us to think bad things about us only ourselves. We can choose to say good things to us, when we success at something celebrate ourselves and when we fail encourage us to continue on the road. One thing also important is to put ourselves first without being selfish because is necessary to put our needs first, for example if you want to have success and you don´t care about the things you are missing to success what will happen is that you are going to help others to reach their dreams and that is not bad, however the success isn´t yours.

Today is your moment to decide, take a time for you and put in mind good thoughts, choose whom you want to be with, the one that appreciates and helps you, stay away from the persons that hold you back, choose what you want and go for it, do the things you love and the most important start loving yourself. Remember this only happens if you decide it to.  

Supreme power

Today was one of the most important days in my life, because it will define my future for the next years. Seeing how difficult it had been the way to reach today, I realized one thing, the faith or hope of believing. I noticed why we need to believe in a supreme power; often they make us see the bad or hard part of religions but I reach into a conclusion, what they really want to do is to make us believe in someone powerful than us and that he or she can do everything, however in whom we truly believe is in us. Some people might say that the supreme being or power is within us, others say it is heaven, in the end it is in different forms or situations; however what I think is that when we believe in someone we put our faith and hope in it although unconsciously we are really believing in us, in things that we can do or achieve. This doesn´t mean that the supreme being doesn´t exist, what I refer to is that when we believe our mind is powerful, if we believe that we are sick our mind will think it’s true, although we aren´t sick, and our mind will start producing the real symptoms of the disease we believe we have. Where I´m going is that as I already said our mind is very powerful and instead of filling it with negative things we need to fill it with good things, dreams, things we want to do and only then we can really believe and do something. If you have trouble to start believing in you, first you can start believing in a supreme being, and I assure that if you believe with your heart you can make things happen for real and over time we can believe in us and make of us our own supreme inner self (without forgetting other supreme beings and without discriminating other religions, is just my point of view)

If you want something to happen, work hard and believe in it, if you don´t believe in it, no one will do it. And when we do that I assure you that you will reach many goals and amazing things can happen. The fact of believing goes beyond a fantasy tale is making true what we want to be our reality, remember that the mind is powerful more than you can imagine and everything that you believe will come true, fill in your mind with positive thoughts and great achievements, don´t think that believing is just for children in that case remain as child and believe.  Just remember first you need to believe in yourself because if you don´t do it you could not believe in anything. 

You are not going to tell me that I can´t

Well, in fist place I want to apologize for not writing since a long time, so in reward I`m writing this article only in english for you, and please wait to see more of my articles in english.
I imagine that all of us have at least a dream, and it`s our dream. The dreams we have are the ones that make us who we are, yes that`s right. Think, what is yor dream? What makes you feel happy? Are you doing something to reach it or are you just willing to reach it? You need to take ACTION, you need to believe that you can, and please hear me NOBODY IS GOING TO TELL THAT YOU CAN`T, it doesn`t matter if its your family or friends, its your dream and you need to protect it until you reach it. Even if you have failed a thousand times you are to get back up, I don`t care if you have failed or not, do anything that its needed to reach your dream. Maybe nobody believes in you, but guess what, the others don`t mean anything for your dream. Going alone in the path of success, it will sound strange or you make feel loneliness, but trust me it`s the best way for reaching it. We need to believe in ourselves because if we don`t do it, who will do it, anyone.
If you need to give up sleeping, going to parties, having free time, just do it, if not you are going to regret for the rest of your life.
Don`t ever think you can`t achieve what you want, you need to discover what is within you, you have power, strength and intelligence, don`t let fools tear you down. If we couldn`t achieve dreams they won`t exist as simple as that, you need to work hard and feel pain, "pain may last for a minute, an hour, a day or even a year but life is not about how hard you can get hit, is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward"
You are the one that decide what is happening in your life, you CAN, you just have to believe and have faith until you reach it.

Our passion

Today I was talking to a friend and I realize something. Has ever happened to you that you love something but is not your strength? That no matter how hard you work you can´t do it as well as others? Well the first thing I feel is frustration, sadness and angriness later I give up and don´t try it anymore, but today due to that friend I understand that we need to find what we are good at and it can be related to what you love, not exactly the same but something close to it. Sometimes we thought we have found our passion but it isn´t, I mean, at the beginning we think we love something but after a while we don´t love it anymore, which means that is not your real passion. In life we are going to find a lot of things that we are passionate about however just one can be real, is the best and the one we love and we can considered it as a strength. So if one day you think you have found your passion and suddenly you realize that is isn´t, don´t get disappointed, try and prove others and you will find your strength, something you like and you are good at and little by little you will start closing doors that we have in front of us to see what we like and passionate us.

Something very important is not to pay attention to bad comments people make unless they come from our family, because most of the times what others say is just to make us feel bad and we can´t succeed, our family instead wants the best for us and most of the times they will give the most honest opinion. When we learn not to pay attention to  what others say and believe in ourselves is when we can start living for real, find what we love and be successful.“They say, seeing is believing  then go to a mirror, stand in front of it and start believing in you”

Remember one last thing don´t be what others want you to be because you will never please anyone, if you love soccer, practice it; if you love singing, sing; if you love dancing, dance; if you love acting, act; if you want to succeed, do it. The only thing that keeps you out of your goal are the negative thoughts of yourself, you are your worst enemy, stop being it and do what you want, do what makes you happy, it doesn´t matter if for someone is bad, if you don´t hurt anyone you can do what you want. Now stop doing what you are doing and meditate for a while what is your passion, what makes you happy, who are you, what you want to do and try to do everyday an effort for reaching your goal, don´t let anyone or anything stop you, you have the power you are just missing to use it and improve it. Live your life, don´t stop because of the others and your main goal should be happiness. Because if you don´t live your life and chase your dreams who would do it?

Make some noise

Did you ever feel so bad that your enthusiasm went away? I think that everyone has passed through this situation in some moment of our life but what we should do is to meditate and ask ourselves: does this situation really affect me? Is this important? Once we have thought these we have to get in our head that not always we can be happy and not always we are going to have what we want, life is like that and the only thing we can do is learn to live our life happy even though we make mistakes and have bad moments because that is what life is about, we live good, sad and bad moments and experience failing and angriness. “Happiness has no cost” is very common to hear this phrase, however many times we don´t know the real meaning of it, this means that happiness is always there, it never disappears we are the ones that don´t want to feel it but if someone wishes to be happy he or she will be happy because happiness is an emotion that we decide when to feel it, I know sometimes circumstances won´t allow us to feel that is there although it stills being there. We need to understand that every minute that we spend being angry or sad is a minute of happiness that we lose.

If something annoys you say it, nothing worse can happen than keeping it for yourself. Never stay silent in front of any situation, the result can bring you happiness instead of that bad moment that you suffer when you stay silent. It’s better to say what you feel, how you feel even though nobody answer you, I promise that someone already listen to you, something has change is the others mind. You can do big changes if you say what you think, don´t wait for everyone to change if you don´t change first and that change only comes when you make noise, when you scream to the world what you think, you don´t know if something good can happen, you can do incredible stuff, just SAY WHAT YOU FEEL.

With little actions you can do incredible things and don´t let anyone let you down, the day is yours don´t be disappointed. Be always positive, fight for what you want and every time you are disappointed just think about all the incredible things you can do and don´t live hating your life; life is too short for lamenting. Speak, say what you feel, what you don´t like, try to change but no matter what happens don´t stay silent!